今日會係本年度最後一日的長直髮,
好望多兩眼啦,唔睇今年就冇啦 =p
Wednesday, December 30, 2009
Monday, December 28, 2009
Christmas Giftsss
1. Heater (yeah~ how practical!exactly the one for single senior!)
2. Juicy Couture Tracksuit
3. Burberry Keyring
4. Leather Jacket
5. Necklace
6. Red Pocket x 3
7. Scarf
8. Crabtree & Evelyn Crunchy Toffee Shortbread
9. A bottle of Akarie Honey
10. Light-on Compact Mirror (So I can put on some made up late at night)
11. Multipurpose Flower Pillow (For neck pain)
12. Homemade Chocolate
13. Victoria Secret Angel Touch Lotion
14. Ghirardelli Chocolate (Dark Collection)
15. Hydrating Facial Masks (Probably for anti-aging & restoring a younthful complexion)
16. A pair of kitty socks
17. Crabtree & Evelyn Lotion
Thank you thank you thank you from the bottom of my heart.
On the other hand....
I am not longer receiving stuffed animals or other little cuties stuffsss, coz I am no longer a little girl. I started receiving lotion packages since last Christmas... OMG... I have heater, more lotions, facial masks, light-on compact mirror and pillow this year. As a conclusion here I am dry,level up, age, 升呢 or whatever with the sweet tooth and I am proud of it coz I earn it hard. =)
2. Juicy Couture Tracksuit
3. Burberry Keyring
4. Leather Jacket
5. Necklace
6. Red Pocket x 3
7. Scarf
8. Crabtree & Evelyn Crunchy Toffee Shortbread
9. A bottle of Akarie Honey
10. Light-on Compact Mirror (So I can put on some made up late at night)
11. Multipurpose Flower Pillow (For neck pain)
12. Homemade Chocolate
13. Victoria Secret Angel Touch Lotion
14. Ghirardelli Chocolate (Dark Collection)
15. Hydrating Facial Masks (Probably for anti-aging & restoring a younthful complexion)
16. A pair of kitty socks
17. Crabtree & Evelyn Lotion
Thank you thank you thank you from the bottom of my heart.
On the other hand....
I am not longer receiving stuffed animals or other little cuties stuffsss, coz I am no longer a little girl. I started receiving lotion packages since last Christmas... OMG... I have heater, more lotions, facial masks, light-on compact mirror and pillow this year. As a conclusion here I am dry,level up, age, 升呢 or whatever with the sweet tooth and I am proud of it coz I earn it hard. =)
Thursday, December 24, 2009
Touch Back
My first Christmas card turned to be a Thank You Card.
It was just a few sentences and less than 100 words,
but I wouldn't hold my tears when I read it in the office.
I wasn't that great as the thank you card noted as "工作上的苦中一點甜",
I was trying to ease the worse situation or act like a pain killer sometimes.
I have quite many die-hard buddies (7+) at work;
age from 20 to 40 mostly intelligent young ladies and work moms.
we are there for each other not only for work but friendship, care and support.
We share all kinds of stories and funny jokes from personal life to C1....
2009 is quite a difficult year for all of us,
it'd been many ups and downs.
I'll be with you and it is my honor to share the burden with everyone of you.
Good luck to you all =)
Thursday, December 17, 2009
Tuesday, December 15, 2009
Rainny Dayss
Why it's always rain when I am having my new pair of heels on?
What is the logic behind? New pair of heels = rain?
Still couldn't figure it out!
BTW I received a bundle of brand new pencils tied with a super rubber band sitting on my desk and a note from my boss.
Remember the movie "You've Got Mail",
Tom Hanks was using "A bouquet of new sharpened pencil" as an opening pick-up line.
It was so charm, but in my case I was like GREAT Happy Tuesday!
What is the logic behind? New pair of heels = rain?
Still couldn't figure it out!
BTW I received a bundle of brand new pencils tied with a super rubber band sitting on my desk and a note from my boss.
Remember the movie "You've Got Mail",
Tom Hanks was using "A bouquet of new sharpened pencil" as an opening pick-up line.
It was so charm, but in my case I was like GREAT Happy Tuesday!
Monday, December 14, 2009
Monday, December 07, 2009
怕左你
這夜下微雨身穿上這套衣履回家時,
心想上一次穿這套衫是什麼場合、跟誰在一起?
這刻想起身邊曾出現的一個他,
偏偏是最無奈和深刻的一個。
曾說最怕我,
只因大家年少時經歷太多、畫面太多、負出太多、滴下太多。
我又何嘗不是怕左你。
祝君安康!
心想上一次穿這套衫是什麼場合、跟誰在一起?
這刻想起身邊曾出現的一個他,
偏偏是最無奈和深刻的一個。
曾說最怕我,
只因大家年少時經歷太多、畫面太多、負出太多、滴下太多。
我又何嘗不是怕左你。
祝君安康!
Monday, November 16, 2009
金曲金句
倪匡先生『做人,做不喜歡做的,很容易。要做自己喜歡的,真難。』
今日有幸做到自己想做的事,一定要好好記下。
聽了一整個下晝容祖兒金曲,回想往日開車一個人在車廂內曾啍過的調子,
當時發生過的事和心情,為何選播這首歌。
哪一首歌曾引起共鳴,哪一首歌曾不經已地在腦內閃過,
最出乎意料的原來我認識那麼多的容祖兒。
眼前選曲那位一定是她粉絲‧
雖然重溫容祖兒的歌曲,並不是今天的樂事之最,
不過可以說是在樂事上添上蔥花,要我記住這一刻和過去那一刻。
今日有幸做到自己想做的事,一定要好好記下。
聽了一整個下晝容祖兒金曲,回想往日開車一個人在車廂內曾啍過的調子,
當時發生過的事和心情,為何選播這首歌。
哪一首歌曾引起共鳴,哪一首歌曾不經已地在腦內閃過,
最出乎意料的原來我認識那麼多的容祖兒。
眼前選曲那位一定是她粉絲‧
雖然重溫容祖兒的歌曲,並不是今天的樂事之最,
不過可以說是在樂事上添上蔥花,要我記住這一刻和過去那一刻。
Monday, November 02, 2009
小人戚戚然也
放幾天假已足夠陷我於不義。
對於在職場上的你虞我詐,
慨看不起而且感到一點也不光明磊落。
與其費煞思量去耍手段出口術,
不如把事辦妥平息更實際。
這種發展勊星經常廢時失事,
阻礙人類發展,浪費地球資源。
晒米飯~
對於在職場上的你虞我詐,
慨看不起而且感到一點也不光明磊落。
與其費煞思量去耍手段出口術,
不如把事辦妥平息更實際。
這種發展勊星經常廢時失事,
阻礙人類發展,浪費地球資源。
晒米飯~
Thursday, October 22, 2009
Monday, October 19, 2009
Saturday, October 17, 2009
Sunday, October 11, 2009
介別
處理不同事情和應付不同對手,也需抱不同態度。
凡事不用太上心,有時一動不如一靜。
静觀其變,欣賞宏觀,不要跟小事過不去。
即使未如理想,也不會有下次。
要事事關心,一事同仁,無線新聞也辦不到。
生活已夠多煩惱,別讓小事煞風景。
成熟不會因年紀而遞增,對方可能是童心未泯已了。
凡事不用太上心,有時一動不如一靜。
静觀其變,欣賞宏觀,不要跟小事過不去。
即使未如理想,也不會有下次。
要事事關心,一事同仁,無線新聞也辦不到。
生活已夠多煩惱,別讓小事煞風景。
成熟不會因年紀而遞增,對方可能是童心未泯已了。
Saturday, October 03, 2009
So Cliche
So many opinions AKA cliche~ No content no objective but shallow mentality. 看得多低智東西,的確會令人言詞空洞,低不可測。
Thanks for all updates!
Thanks for all updates!
Tuesday, September 29, 2009
Live it & Learn it
"Fuck me once badly, shame on you.
Fuck me twice badly, shame on me."
Quoted from S&C, Samantha.
Fuck me twice badly, shame on me."
Quoted from S&C, Samantha.
Wednesday, September 16, 2009
來自"爭氣的藝術"
如果你受了委屈,又想將情緒表現出來,你有很多方法。你可以找朋友訴苦,可以找對方理論,可以發脾氣、發屋企人脾氣、篤背脊、登報紙、可以流淚、亂花錢、飲醉酒、染上毒癮、發神經、變得荒淫,你亦可以玩逃避、玩絕交、剪自己頭髮、鎅手鎅腳、移民、找心理醫生,也可以咬耳仔、放毒蛇、畀錢黑社會打他一身、找老千、撬他女朋友....嘩,方法多著呢。
最難做的方法,可能是不作任何回應。
最難做的方法,可能是不作任何回應。
有趣
對一些無病呻吟用不同途徑博取同情或注意的看法,只好說是道行未夠及以下文章。
"他不如做個PowerPoint,在會展租個場地來個正統的Presentation來推廣自己建立人緣,對於這種事,除了視為笑話一則,我想不到還可以用什麼方法看待,世上很多事情,我都會認真對待例如:我的工作、我看哪一個中醫、用哪一支粉底,然而這種活動我實在不能,有心力的話,我會想應該入哪隻股票。"
"他不如做個PowerPoint,在會展租個場地來個正統的Presentation來推廣自己建立人緣,對於這種事,除了視為笑話一則,我想不到還可以用什麼方法看待,世上很多事情,我都會認真對待例如:我的工作、我看哪一個中醫、用哪一支粉底,然而這種活動我實在不能,有心力的話,我會想應該入哪隻股票。"
Sunday, September 13, 2009
No Matter What...
開始咗一連四次自家游泳醫頸患療程,第一次下水嘅時候,一心諗住鬆弛頸肌減少酸痛,中間隻腳抽咗兩次筋,總結游完十個塘,叫做有個交代亦好了許多。第二次開始真正專心游,抽筋減至一次之餘,還游多了幾個塘。第三次游已經無抽筋嘅情況,亦有保持游十多個塘。去到第四次游泳嘅時候,開始思索一些問題,可能只有游水嘅時候無什麼外來雜念,只需保持動作和呼吸的節奏往前游,開始反覆思索一些過往決定和問題的壓根兒,到最後有些問題無論我再努力游多十個塘都會是一樣,不過總有些得著。
Tuesday, September 08, 2009
Sunday, August 09, 2009
How much memory do I need?
How many things can you recall?
It is not a thing that easily get under control.
Having good memory may not be a good thing.
It is not a thing that easily get under control.
Having good memory may not be a good thing.
Thursday, August 06, 2009
Monday, June 15, 2009
Worth to plan
Sometimes we might spend a lot of time planning and trying to make the best decision, but it turned out the decision was already made and all we have to do was following the path to get there.
Monday, May 04, 2009
Saturday, April 04, 2009
Sex & The City
星期五晚上跟友人用了一頓簡單的晚餐後,到HMV逛一逛﹒我選擇了兩張"Symphony Live in Vienna"-Sarah Brightman、張國榮的最紅和減價的Sex & the City Season II﹒其實當中的一張Sarah Brightman和張國榮最紅專輯是送人的﹒當友人看到我手持兩張Sarah Brightman專輯時,問了一句“佢啲歌好好聽ga?我頓時靜了一靜,因為我唔知如何表達....Sarah Brightman是一位被譽為擁有天籟之音的一位英國女高音,街知巷聞的明曲有The Phantom of the Opera和Time to Say Goodbye﹒她最近在港的演唱會一張門票要千多元﹒至於好聽一問,只在於個人喜好,始終不是主流流行音樂,不是人人也感興趣,可能你會一聽就昏昏欲睡﹒可惜我當時無心跟友人交流,只係輕輕帯過,說了一句ok ga,草草了事﹒
跟住見到我再手持Sex & the City時,友人就好大反應地說:『唉教壞人!』﹒我直言道出我家已有Season I, III & V﹒如真有咁大威力教壞我,我都壞了一大半了﹒我問友人有冇真正睇過電視系列或只看過電影?老實說如果冇睇過電視系列,真係會抱有偏見﹒我卻偏偏鍾情這套戲,大學時代其中一套每個星期六晚追看的 HBO TV series﹒要敢愛敢談的確令人羨慕﹒而且戲中妙語連珠,多少漂亮對答和對感情的瀟灑態度﹒
後記
已離開大學很久,再看這套曾經追過的電視劇,也有另一份感覺,整個心態也不同了長大了﹒Grown up!
跟住見到我再手持Sex & the City時,友人就好大反應地說:『唉教壞人!』﹒我直言道出我家已有Season I, III & V﹒如真有咁大威力教壞我,我都壞了一大半了﹒我問友人有冇真正睇過電視系列或只看過電影?老實說如果冇睇過電視系列,真係會抱有偏見﹒我卻偏偏鍾情這套戲,大學時代其中一套每個星期六晚追看的 HBO TV series﹒要敢愛敢談的確令人羨慕﹒而且戲中妙語連珠,多少漂亮對答和對感情的瀟灑態度﹒
後記
已離開大學很久,再看這套曾經追過的電視劇,也有另一份感覺,整個心態也不同了長大了﹒Grown up!
Thursday, April 02, 2009
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蠢人恐怖過奸人 - 卓韻芝
謀殺與誤殺
害怕蠢人,遠遠多於害怕奸人﹒
奸人會害人,蠢人則會連累人,兩者皆無定向,無迹可遁,稍有鬆懈,麻煩上身﹒奸人陰陰濕濕,難以預測防避,蠢人蠢起來冇路捉,情況同樣防不勝防﹒蠢人能在任何時間作出愚笨決定,違反一切常識及邏輯,製造出變化多端的亂子﹒奸人當然比蠢人危險,若被奸人看中,被其一掌重擊,掉落山頭永無翻身;蠢人攻擊力較弱,但由於好心做壞事的次數可以極為頻密,所以俗語有云:「奸人擊死你,蠢人激死你,奸人謀殺死你;奸人讓你動氣得想自殺﹒」
蠢人界軍雞
哈哈,蠢人就不同了﹒為什麼沒有著作教我們如何防避蠢人呢?為什麼市場上沒有《妙法喝止蠢人做蠢事》、《Dumb Prevention for Dummies》之類的書籍呢?我真的想買一本﹒奸人有個好處,他們目標明確,你不在他們對付之列的話,就可以成功避免自己成為奸計中的犠牲品/踏腳石﹒然而,蠢人的蠢,卻是全方位的,跟年資、學歷、年紀無關,可以隨時隨地都蠢,Anytime,anywhere,any situation﹒蠢的程度,蠢的事可以蠢得連編劇都編不出來,這才是防不勝防﹒最恐怖是「熱心的蠢人」,一旦不小心向他們發出指令,一旦他們開始出錯,你就只得眼巴巴看着事情繼續糟下去,再叫「阿邊個呀,呢個電話真係唔洗再打嘞﹒」他們還是很熱心地說:「唔係哩,我打啦,我而家就打﹒」蠢人界軍雞,盲頭打不死,卻打撞死你﹒
蠢人教不精,就算教了,他們還是有本事發明另一種方法來把事情做錯﹒告訴他們某個客人喜歡開門見山,他們便以為可以力罵對方﹒告訴他們這裏是個大家庭,他們會放下工作買咖啡給大家喝﹒告訴他們要盡快回覆,他們在計劃未落實之前就已回覆了﹒還以為自己很精靈,洋洋得意又或者是滿頭大汗地跑回來說自己的工作完成了,結果你得花時間讓他們從頭到尾詳述一次自己做了什麼,你邊聽邊冒汗,唯有說「得嘞,你繼續講啦...」
總結
蠢人恐怖過奸人,因為蠢人的數目比起奸人多出太多倍,這是命中率的問題﹒奸人與蠢人,就像空難與塞車,空難防不了,塞車嘛,你每天上班也定必遇上﹒
謀殺與誤殺
害怕蠢人,遠遠多於害怕奸人﹒
奸人會害人,蠢人則會連累人,兩者皆無定向,無迹可遁,稍有鬆懈,麻煩上身﹒奸人陰陰濕濕,難以預測防避,蠢人蠢起來冇路捉,情況同樣防不勝防﹒蠢人能在任何時間作出愚笨決定,違反一切常識及邏輯,製造出變化多端的亂子﹒奸人當然比蠢人危險,若被奸人看中,被其一掌重擊,掉落山頭永無翻身;蠢人攻擊力較弱,但由於好心做壞事的次數可以極為頻密,所以俗語有云:「奸人擊死你,蠢人激死你,奸人謀殺死你;奸人讓你動氣得想自殺﹒」
蠢人界軍雞
哈哈,蠢人就不同了﹒為什麼沒有著作教我們如何防避蠢人呢?為什麼市場上沒有《妙法喝止蠢人做蠢事》、《Dumb Prevention for Dummies》之類的書籍呢?我真的想買一本﹒奸人有個好處,他們目標明確,你不在他們對付之列的話,就可以成功避免自己成為奸計中的犠牲品/踏腳石﹒然而,蠢人的蠢,卻是全方位的,跟年資、學歷、年紀無關,可以隨時隨地都蠢,Anytime,anywhere,any situation﹒蠢的程度,蠢的事可以蠢得連編劇都編不出來,這才是防不勝防﹒最恐怖是「熱心的蠢人」,一旦不小心向他們發出指令,一旦他們開始出錯,你就只得眼巴巴看着事情繼續糟下去,再叫「阿邊個呀,呢個電話真係唔洗再打嘞﹒」他們還是很熱心地說:「唔係哩,我打啦,我而家就打﹒」蠢人界軍雞,盲頭打不死,卻打撞死你﹒
蠢人教不精,就算教了,他們還是有本事發明另一種方法來把事情做錯﹒告訴他們某個客人喜歡開門見山,他們便以為可以力罵對方﹒告訴他們這裏是個大家庭,他們會放下工作買咖啡給大家喝﹒告訴他們要盡快回覆,他們在計劃未落實之前就已回覆了﹒還以為自己很精靈,洋洋得意又或者是滿頭大汗地跑回來說自己的工作完成了,結果你得花時間讓他們從頭到尾詳述一次自己做了什麼,你邊聽邊冒汗,唯有說「得嘞,你繼續講啦...」
總結
蠢人恐怖過奸人,因為蠢人的數目比起奸人多出太多倍,這是命中率的問題﹒奸人與蠢人,就像空難與塞車,空難防不了,塞車嘛,你每天上班也定必遇上﹒
Tuesday, March 31, 2009
Saturday, March 28, 2009
I wonder if it is stain-free?!
Astronaut tests stink-free underwear
HOUSTON (Reuters) – Teen-age boys, are you tired of embarrassing questions about when you last changed underwear? Japan's space scientists may have just the answer -- a line of odour-free underwear and casual clothing.
Koichi Wakata, the first Japanese astronaut to live on the International Space Station, is testing the clothes, called J-ware and created by textile experts at Japan Women's University in Tokyo.
"He can wear his trunks (underwear) more than a week," said Koji Yanagawa, an official with the Japanese Aerospace Exploration Agency.
Wakata's clothes, developed by researcher Yoshiko Taya, are designed to kill bacteria, absorb water, insulate the body and dry quickly. They also are flame-resistant and anti-static, not to mention comfortable and stylish.
Japanese astronaut Takao Doi gave the clothes a trial run during a shuttle mission last year. Even after a vigorous workout, Doi's clothes stayed dry.
"The other astronauts become very sweaty, but he doesn't have any sweat. He didn't need to hang his clothes to dry," Yanagawa said.
J-ware should reduce the amount of clothing that needs to be sent to the space station, which has no laundry facilities. Toting cargo into orbit is expensive, so having clothes that stay fresh for weeks at a time should result in significant savings.
The Japanese space agency plans to make the clothes available to NASA and its other space station partners once development is complete. A commercial line also is in the offing.
Taya also is working with clothing manufacturers Toray Industries and Goldwin. on clothes that have a microscopically thin chemical layer in the materials.
Wakata, who arrived at the station last week for a three-month stay, said on Sunday that the clothes appear to be working.
"Nobody has complained, so I think it's so far, so good," Wakata said.
(Editing by Jane Sutton and Cynthia Osterman)
HOUSTON (Reuters) – Teen-age boys, are you tired of embarrassing questions about when you last changed underwear? Japan's space scientists may have just the answer -- a line of odour-free underwear and casual clothing.
Koichi Wakata, the first Japanese astronaut to live on the International Space Station, is testing the clothes, called J-ware and created by textile experts at Japan Women's University in Tokyo.
"He can wear his trunks (underwear) more than a week," said Koji Yanagawa, an official with the Japanese Aerospace Exploration Agency.
Wakata's clothes, developed by researcher Yoshiko Taya, are designed to kill bacteria, absorb water, insulate the body and dry quickly. They also are flame-resistant and anti-static, not to mention comfortable and stylish.
Japanese astronaut Takao Doi gave the clothes a trial run during a shuttle mission last year. Even after a vigorous workout, Doi's clothes stayed dry.
"The other astronauts become very sweaty, but he doesn't have any sweat. He didn't need to hang his clothes to dry," Yanagawa said.
J-ware should reduce the amount of clothing that needs to be sent to the space station, which has no laundry facilities. Toting cargo into orbit is expensive, so having clothes that stay fresh for weeks at a time should result in significant savings.
The Japanese space agency plans to make the clothes available to NASA and its other space station partners once development is complete. A commercial line also is in the offing.
Taya also is working with clothing manufacturers Toray Industries and Goldwin. on clothes that have a microscopically thin chemical layer in the materials.
Wakata, who arrived at the station last week for a three-month stay, said on Sunday that the clothes appear to be working.
"Nobody has complained, so I think it's so far, so good," Wakata said.
(Editing by Jane Sutton and Cynthia Osterman)
"囉~"
一個"囉"字,簡直係反高潮﹒
一定有人同你講過個囉字﹒
Sorry 囉! 是旦囉! 你鍾意囉!
其實個囉真係好有力,一聽就明當中有幾藐﹒
今日的確有心相贈一個囉字,
"你話得咪得囉!"
其實真係冇對與錯,
一句到底只有值同唔值﹒
一定有人同你講過個囉字﹒
Sorry 囉! 是旦囉! 你鍾意囉!
其實個囉真係好有力,一聽就明當中有幾藐﹒
今日的確有心相贈一個囉字,
"你話得咪得囉!"
其實真係冇對與錯,
一句到底只有值同唔值﹒
Tuesday, March 24, 2009
Monday, March 23, 2009
Thursday, March 12, 2009
另一個諗法
寫給未婚夫的分手信
卓韻芝
有智無情者白活,有情無智者亂活﹒
有腦無心者不解情,有心無腦者浪費情﹒
—— 李天命
決定結婚是兩人的事,決定不結婚卻可以是一個人的事;婚姻是(至少)兩個人的決定,離婚卻可以是單方面的決定 —— 怪不得很簡單的機率計算﹒
我們分開了,好嗎?
如果我們還未談婚論嫁,只是隨便拍拖,可能根本不用在這個時候分手(大概會一直等到雙方討厭大家,然後才不再留戀地、心安理得地分手吧)﹒
可惜我們已談到婚事了﹒
我不想作出一個心中帶着疑惑的決定,反而想盡快下定決心——好趁我們未成為互相憎恨的夫婦﹒更諷刺的是,如果只是拍拍拖,我們或許還可以重新嘗試,然而一旦到婚嫁的地步,我知道我兩大概朋友也做不成﹒關係曾經愈親密,兩個人可能在往後分得愈開﹒
這封信,不是為了責怪你,甚至不會控訴/列舉/提出/重提任何我倆不合的原因和例證;一旦決定分開,那些事情,都頓變成小事了﹒
近來,每次與你吵架,我心裡都想着一個問題:到底一個人好?還是兩個人好?
我不是那種渴求婚姻的人,因為我見過不少人為了達到結婚的夢想,連眼前人是否適合也不理會了;我一直提醒自己不要這樣,否則便本末倒置﹒
當然希望自己找到終身伴侶(十分希望!),遠勝獨自上路,但如果拿『不健康的婚姻』,與『健康的單身』相比,我會選擇後者——我不會知道自己餘下的路會否走得健康,但我卻看到這段婚姻不健康的潛力——試着走向健康人生,應該是任何人生活的大前提吧﹒
每當我們意見不合,難聽說話>憤怒>罵戰>眼淚>冷戰>哭到很頭痛>心軟>拿起止痛餅>和好>覺得浪費了大好周日>雙雙感到無奈>想起原本可以去看的電影、原本可以逛的街、見的朋友....在這個過程中,我老是想起,如果換轉是自己一個人的話,縱然只會是平淡的一天,卻不會感到無奈傷心吧﹒這個想法漸漸在腦內萌生,慢慢孕育成今天這封信﹒
我見過為了結婚而結婚的人,然後他們為了維繫感情而生孩子,有了孩子後為了維繫家庭而再生一個孩子....如果一開始的起點錯了,就會愈來愈錯了﹒
我們爭吵不算非常頻繁,而且一直都是一些雞皮毛蒜皮的事﹒別人聽到我要跟你分開,都會認『未夠原因去分手』﹒有一套電影叫做<玫瑰戰爭>,女主角因為『他吃東西的樣子很難看』而殺死自己的丈夫,其實那個又何嘗是原因,是雞毛蒜皮的小事,積少成多,最終累積成致命一擊﹒
小事比起大事,來得更可怕﹒因為每當人遇上大事,總得被逼面對;小事就不同了,遇上小事的時候,人會慣性逃避,心想裡着『只是小事一則吧』,而沒警覺要把問題解決,結果小事攢積而成千絲萬縷的醜惡局面-面對這情況,人會產生一種無力感,更不懂得解決事情了﹒離異的夫婦們,又有多少能確切地說得出單一件致命大事呢?卻都是千千萬個連講也講不出口的細微事情吧﹒
小事,就如中國五千年歷史裡的小人,他們不致大奸大惡,教科書中甚至無名無性,卻一直陰乾好事,影響大局﹒如果我是歷史家,我會寫一本《真正的罪魁禍首 —— 中國五千年小人全紀錄》﹒
問題並非我們為什麼吵架,而是在我們不和之後,我們是否懂得處理,有沒有真正解決/改善問題,無論問題是多麼微小﹒抑或是為了一時心軟和對擁抱的渴望,就胡亂地言和了﹒在這情況下,「言和」反而變成不顧後果的行為呢﹒
可是,是我想得太多了,太認真了,但如果不三思不認真,又何必結婚?
多謝你讓我相信世上真有感情這回事﹒保重﹒
卓韻芝
有智無情者白活,有情無智者亂活﹒
有腦無心者不解情,有心無腦者浪費情﹒
—— 李天命
決定結婚是兩人的事,決定不結婚卻可以是一個人的事;婚姻是(至少)兩個人的決定,離婚卻可以是單方面的決定 —— 怪不得很簡單的機率計算﹒
我們分開了,好嗎?
如果我們還未談婚論嫁,只是隨便拍拖,可能根本不用在這個時候分手(大概會一直等到雙方討厭大家,然後才不再留戀地、心安理得地分手吧)﹒
可惜我們已談到婚事了﹒
我不想作出一個心中帶着疑惑的決定,反而想盡快下定決心——好趁我們未成為互相憎恨的夫婦﹒更諷刺的是,如果只是拍拍拖,我們或許還可以重新嘗試,然而一旦到婚嫁的地步,我知道我兩大概朋友也做不成﹒關係曾經愈親密,兩個人可能在往後分得愈開﹒
這封信,不是為了責怪你,甚至不會控訴/列舉/提出/重提任何我倆不合的原因和例證;一旦決定分開,那些事情,都頓變成小事了﹒
近來,每次與你吵架,我心裡都想着一個問題:到底一個人好?還是兩個人好?
我不是那種渴求婚姻的人,因為我見過不少人為了達到結婚的夢想,連眼前人是否適合也不理會了;我一直提醒自己不要這樣,否則便本末倒置﹒
當然希望自己找到終身伴侶(十分希望!),遠勝獨自上路,但如果拿『不健康的婚姻』,與『健康的單身』相比,我會選擇後者——我不會知道自己餘下的路會否走得健康,但我卻看到這段婚姻不健康的潛力——試着走向健康人生,應該是任何人生活的大前提吧﹒
每當我們意見不合,難聽說話>憤怒>罵戰>眼淚>冷戰>哭到很頭痛>心軟>拿起止痛餅>和好>覺得浪費了大好周日>雙雙感到無奈>想起原本可以去看的電影、原本可以逛的街、見的朋友....在這個過程中,我老是想起,如果換轉是自己一個人的話,縱然只會是平淡的一天,卻不會感到無奈傷心吧﹒這個想法漸漸在腦內萌生,慢慢孕育成今天這封信﹒
我見過為了結婚而結婚的人,然後他們為了維繫感情而生孩子,有了孩子後為了維繫家庭而再生一個孩子....如果一開始的起點錯了,就會愈來愈錯了﹒
我們爭吵不算非常頻繁,而且一直都是一些雞皮毛蒜皮的事﹒別人聽到我要跟你分開,都會認『未夠原因去分手』﹒有一套電影叫做<玫瑰戰爭>,女主角因為『他吃東西的樣子很難看』而殺死自己的丈夫,其實那個又何嘗是原因,是雞毛蒜皮的小事,積少成多,最終累積成致命一擊﹒
小事比起大事,來得更可怕﹒因為每當人遇上大事,總得被逼面對;小事就不同了,遇上小事的時候,人會慣性逃避,心想裡着『只是小事一則吧』,而沒警覺要把問題解決,結果小事攢積而成千絲萬縷的醜惡局面-面對這情況,人會產生一種無力感,更不懂得解決事情了﹒離異的夫婦們,又有多少能確切地說得出單一件致命大事呢?卻都是千千萬個連講也講不出口的細微事情吧﹒
小事,就如中國五千年歷史裡的小人,他們不致大奸大惡,教科書中甚至無名無性,卻一直陰乾好事,影響大局﹒如果我是歷史家,我會寫一本《真正的罪魁禍首 —— 中國五千年小人全紀錄》﹒
問題並非我們為什麼吵架,而是在我們不和之後,我們是否懂得處理,有沒有真正解決/改善問題,無論問題是多麼微小﹒抑或是為了一時心軟和對擁抱的渴望,就胡亂地言和了﹒在這情況下,「言和」反而變成不顧後果的行為呢﹒
可是,是我想得太多了,太認真了,但如果不三思不認真,又何必結婚?
多謝你讓我相信世上真有感情這回事﹒保重﹒
Monday, March 09, 2009
沒什麼
有什麼爛攤子沒有收拾過﹒這一刻我很清楚真的沒什麼,我對過往對任何人做過的決定和結果,既沒有後悔亦受得起﹒過得到自己就好了﹒而你過唔過到,我真係無興趣知或我看化了(why would I care or give me a good reason)﹒Do whatever is best for you.
Tuesday, February 24, 2009
Saturday, February 21, 2009
The World's Friendliest Countries
Wow~ Hong Kong ranked as TOP 7 world's friendliest countries.
Are you friendly or at least user-friendly?
Are you friendly or at least user-friendly?
Wednesday, February 18, 2009
Sunday, February 08, 2009
告別2008
2008的確不容易,
失去兩個曾細心照顧過疼鍚過我嘅家人。
一切發生得太突然,令我一時間難已招架。
心情當然不好受,不過也衷心多謝您曾在我身邊擦亮過。
不竟不想發生的都已發生了,此時此刻只感到有些時候,總是不會表達或難以啟齒,說到一半做了一半,便緊緊關閉收起來。之後剩下一些零零碎碎回憶,卻有許多感動時刻。
以前曾經也會一些幼稚嘅想法,點解你唔做多少少?點解你唔同我講多少少?
難度生女,又唔知女心肝咩?!只可以話我哋嘅緣份比較薄,某情度上很相似唔多expose自己有乜諗法或一些感覺,直至看到您收藏一疊一疊的舊照,您一直也靜靜地竉我。
記得小學時代,美勞手エ我一直都不用橾心,因為交功課之前一晚我瞓着咗之後,都會有奇妙嘅事情發生,瞓醒便會有一幅精緻攞硬A嘅作品,等住我拎番學校貼堂,真係好爽好開心。
失去兩個曾細心照顧過疼鍚過我嘅家人。
一切發生得太突然,令我一時間難已招架。
心情當然不好受,不過也衷心多謝您曾在我身邊擦亮過。
不竟不想發生的都已發生了,此時此刻只感到有些時候,總是不會表達或難以啟齒,說到一半做了一半,便緊緊關閉收起來。之後剩下一些零零碎碎回憶,卻有許多感動時刻。
以前曾經也會一些幼稚嘅想法,點解你唔做多少少?點解你唔同我講多少少?
難度生女,又唔知女心肝咩?!只可以話我哋嘅緣份比較薄,某情度上很相似唔多expose自己有乜諗法或一些感覺,直至看到您收藏一疊一疊的舊照,您一直也靜靜地竉我。
記得小學時代,美勞手エ我一直都不用橾心,因為交功課之前一晚我瞓着咗之後,都會有奇妙嘅事情發生,瞓醒便會有一幅精緻攞硬A嘅作品,等住我拎番學校貼堂,真係好爽好開心。
左麟右李
我都睇咗li個旗英crossover自由人演唱會。
旗英自我陶醉,得意洋洋跟住唱,音亮還要越唱越強。
自由人做足現場反應,雀躍地揮動bon bon棒,就算坐在山頂仍會高聲立喊叫"Alan~Alan"。
實在太高層次,我真係遙不可及。
旗英自我陶醉,得意洋洋跟住唱,音亮還要越唱越強。
自由人做足現場反應,雀躍地揮動bon bon棒,就算坐在山頂仍會高聲立喊叫"Alan~Alan"。
實在太高層次,我真係遙不可及。
Tuesday, February 03, 2009
Sunday, January 04, 2009
Hope for the best
Just hate myself being so numb when I supposed to take action and follow through.
All I could do is to regret and hope for the best!
You're so right...right person does require right timing and obviously the timing is sooo damn wrong this time.
Unfortunately I can't turn my clock back to few months ago but I'm just hoping in the next few months...things would change...may be, who knows? At the mean time, let bygone be bygone!
All I could do is to regret and hope for the best!
You're so right...right person does require right timing and obviously the timing is sooo damn wrong this time.
Unfortunately I can't turn my clock back to few months ago but I'm just hoping in the next few months...things would change...may be, who knows? At the mean time, let bygone be bygone!
Thursday, January 01, 2009
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